“Just let go Meg, I’ve got this!”
Those words ring over and over in my head daily as I read scripture and
pray with God. If I clearly obtain this
phrase in my head each time I dive into God’s Word, why then is it so hard for
me to simply do that…let go?
If you are like me, you have been hurt and possibly even hurt beyond
measure. Things or people you once trusted
proved to be untrustworthy. Situations
and your life goals completely did a “one-eighty” on you when it was determined
you were going to be a single parent. I
do not know what has gotten you to the place you are now, but I do understand the
pain and the frustration that goes along with it. I want to write specifically to the issues of
trust and control.
It is a very easy transition that happens within the moments of
finding out your life is going to be changed forever. Maybe you were encountering a divorce, maybe
you became pregnant outside of wedlock, or maybe you encountered the death of a
spouse. Whatever brought you to the
situation you now find yourself in, quite possibly you found yourself facing
trust and control issues.
For me, losing a husband because of abuse, neglect, and outside
relationships had caused me to shut down in the trust department. At the same time, I lost a lot of friends due
to judgment and early on I felt I couldn’t even trust my family to stand behind
my decision. I easily became a skeptic
of anyone trying to become a part of my life or my son’s life. I had to be shown that I could trust someone
before I did. I also began controlling every
aspect of my life. I put up a wall to my
emotions and fears and just did what I had to do to survive. Can you relate to this?
It is a constant struggle to let my guard down and trust God to do
wonderful things in our lives. I often
find myself in situations wondering where God’s answer is and then BAM! I realize that I am holding the reigns and I
haven’t fully let go of my grip. Thankfully,
God understands and God graciously forgives.
Won’t you join me in daily letting go of the reigns of this life so that
God can do miraculous things?!
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
– Proverbs 3:5-6
thanks God there is someone single Mother who has something encouraging to say. I am still learning to cast my care on the Lord, but sometimes You Pray God and hears nothing but i remember David when he lost all @Zicklag he had to encourage himself in the Lord!! god Bless.
ReplyDeleteWe're learning together Yh! Thank you for reading and commenting!
ReplyDeleteI know all too well Meg.Being a single mother of four was very hard and challenging,but I know it was by the grace of God that I have survived.Two of my kids are grown and out of college and then I still have a 7th grader and a 5th grader,which my 5th grader is special needs.Talk about trust and control issues...whew I can go on forever.If I want my kids to trust God and let Him be in control I have to set the example.Although it is hard to let go and let God,I had to and I have to.Otherwise my life would be in ruins.Worse then it was at the time I became a single mom due to abuse,neglect and unfaithfulness.It is such a heartbreaking experience that only God could fix.Thank you for being open and encouraging to your readers.God bless.
DeleteJS your story is inspiring and I am so happy that you know a loving Father who will the rock you can hold onto as you continue to raise your children. Thank you for being transparent and for joining this blog group! God Bless you and your family as well!
DeleteI have been hearing that scripture a lot tonight. I know it is God's way of telling me he is in control. I know I need to trust in him more that he knows what he is doing for me and my daughter. Thank you for your story.
ReplyDeleteI'm always amazed at God when he works through various people to get one point across. It happens to me often that I am reminded by others about His promise for our lives. Thank you for joining this blog!
DeleteI feel like giving up I know better but I don't get the idea if going through life like this just pain loss and fear of losing all too much don't know why it won't stop I can't seem to get healed
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to understand why some people go through hurdles like this in life and others have a seemingly happy marriage where. Be rest assured that although unfortunate, those people also are enduring their own trials. God promises us in the bible that he will never give us anything we cannot handle.
Delete“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:27-29
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Hi Meg, I am new to your website. Just read it today for the first time, and it was great and a fresh reminder. What I have found helps heaps is to know that you are not alone in your struggles and that others are facing the same challenges and issues. And in this case it is the trust issue and letting go. Reading your comments was reading what I would have said - word for word :-) But what I have learned is that if there is one person I can always-always trust - it is GOD and the Holy Spirit (that small still voice). Praise the Lord!! I honestly don't know how people do it without Faith in Jesus. I praise God for his Faithfulness and Grace in our lives. That He is so good to use to allow us to fail, grow and learn through life experiences. I have also learnt that life is so much less stressful when I take the issues to God as soon as it happen, just wish I would remember this more often and do it quicker. Thanks for being so open and honest, it is really helpful to others. God Bless
ReplyDeleteHi and welcome! I am so glad you took the time to comment and I couldn't agree with you more! I am so thankful as you, that we serve a gracious God who understands our growth!
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